Milestones and growing up Nat Kao What to Expect... As a Mother

Terrible Twos, delayed

March 8, 2015

It’s finally here.

I had thought this was a child who would breeze through toddlerhood with a wonderfully perfect disposition and personality. He was cute, endearing, charming and affectionate at one and for a good part of the second year. He ate when it was time to, slept when it was time to, and although there was the occasional tug-of-war when it came to the battling of wills, it was usually easy to distract him and win each battle.

Until now.

Nat, my littlest, has got his Terrible Twos way, way delayed. And man, am I so exhausted now having to deal with the hugest streak of stubbornness yet. Cos’ even Ben and Becks weren’t like that.

Think sitting on ground (any ground – wet, muddy, flat, hilly) kicking his slippers off his feet and throwing the hissiest of fits. Think grabbing onto your leg and not letting you budge an inch when you refuse to do what he wants. Think shouting into your face and pinching you with all the might his little fingers can muster until he gets his way. And throwing things out and away when he doesn’t want them, screaming the moment you start scolding him and creating a scene everywhere  – at home, at  restaurants, inside the wet market, on the escalators of shopping malls, in the carpark – when he is that mood.

Yep, that’s what we’re looking at now. A three-year-old who’s testing every boundary, challenging authority and showing us what he’s made of.

Someone's throwing a tantrum here because he wants to go swimming but it's time to go to school

Someone’s throwing a tantrum here because he wants to go swimming but it’s time to go to school

I do now know. Nat’s personality, that is. Much is revealed when every child goes through this stage – what kind of a person he is when he’s tired, stressed, hungry, bullied, which is a pretty accurate gauge of the personality he would possess when he’s older.

He’s one helluva feisty, persistent and obstinate boy, I tell you.

Every day he needs to be with his scooter. And we have to lug it everywhere for him, or risk a meltdown

Every day he needs to be with his scooter. And we have to lug it everywhere for him, or risk a meltdown

But even so, there are moments of tenderness. He is quick to apologise and move on, and clever enough to use his charm to sweetly ask for things and plead with you. He’s extremely intelligent and would use all that wit to say something silly to make you laugh in your anger. And he would cry the piteous of cries, complete with those tears flowing freely.

Charming pose #14567

Charming pose #14567

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Showing you the contents of his mouth so he can laugh when you feel grossed out!

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Giving his cheeriest grin because he is eating his favourite… EGG!

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And another charming smile with those huge eyes

Ah, Nat…

This boy’s just turned three and it looks like I am not seeing the end of the tunnel yet. So I’m going to be brainwashing myself with the “this too shall pass” chant a great deal to soldier on in this delayed phase of the Terribles.


And this post is going to end with this photo, which pretty much sums up my life right now, with him.

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At the count of three, he decided to grab my hair! Oh well, gong xi fa cai!

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  • Reply Finally Mama March 8, 2015 at 6:49 AM

    Hee – B too had a delayed terrible “three” – I was so taken aback! We totally empathise and are behind you 100%! This being your third, I’m sure you have tricks up your sleeve 😉

    • Reply MotherKao March 8, 2015 at 11:52 PM

      Thank you for being behind me 100%, Li-Mei! And I have NO tricks up my sleeves. None that I used in the past worked! 🙁

  • Reply diana March 8, 2015 at 1:15 AM

    Aiyo. Like reading about my nat – same la, super cute but super big headache, and he loves to eat eggs too! I chanted “this too shall pass” since my nat turned two till now -still not over yet, and he is turning 4th this year. Nonetheless, let’s enjoy while we can, sometimes I fear I chant too much then before I know he is all grown up and not sticky anymore. Lolx. I was wondering who’s nat is a harder nut to crack and then I saw the last pix… Hum. I think yours have an edge! Keekekeke. Jia you!

    • Reply MotherKao March 9, 2015 at 12:14 AM

      Diana, thanks for the ‘jia you’! You too! Let’s never put our Nats in the same room until THIS HAS PASSED!

  • Reply Michelle March 8, 2015 at 1:03 AM

    Ahahahaha… the last photo is too funny! All the best and ‘this too shall pass’ to you.

    • Reply MotherKao March 8, 2015 at 11:52 PM

      Thanks, Michelle! 🙂

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