(Self) Examination

Why I’ve started writing (again)

April 23, 2012

I used to write. That was before children. Mostly about mundane things and my otherwise quite boring life.

Then I had kids. One after another, since 2008. I spent my first maternity (leave) grappling with motherhood and the baby in my Baby Bjorn. I spent my second maternity still trying to figure out motherhood with one in the Bjorn and the other in the Capella. And now, as I write, I am in my third maternity, adjusting to the demands of motherhood with one in the Beco carrier and two other in the Graco twin stroller.

And in all these grappling and figuring and adjusting, it didn’t occur to me that I should start a blog (again). I started a parent journal and recorded entries in dribs and drabs, mostly while at work when I had some breathing time. I wanted to reflect about decisions and choices but every night I would collapse in exhaustion. I read parenting books and got confused by the assortment of well-meaning advice. I didn’t have time to chew the cud, so to speak, and that is not good for motherkao. It made her run around like a headless chicken on good days and an insanely neurotic one on bad days.

So one fine day, a buzzer went off inside me and I toyed with the idea of another blog, not without first having to reason away all the reasons why I shouldn’t start one again (I will never sustain it… Please, you will get too busy as they grow older… Are you sure you want the world to read about your children… Is it even safe… Will there be stalkers?)

Then I decided, what the heck, I should just write because it is CATHARSIS for me. Three pregnancies, two needy toddlers and one I-need-to-feed-on-demand infant later, I am an emotional wreck in need of purgation.

I’ve been reading other mommy-blogs and often thought it wonderful to leave something for your kids to read one day as you detail and document milestones and funny moments of this journey together. I thought I’d do just that. But I’m also secretly hoping that a publisher will pick these posts up and compile them in a book (and make me famous) so I can give someone like Neil Humphrys a run for his money.

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2 Comments

  • Reply sue May 17, 2012 at 8:10 AM

    i’ve never really gone around reading mummy blogs but ohmigod! maybe i should scour for more since yours is such a good read.

    i used to write as well. but they were mostly self-indulgent,woe-is-me posts pre-my husband and sometimes i think, happier moments are tougher to write about.

    • Reply MotherKao May 19, 2012 at 2:54 PM

      There are so many mummy blogs out there! Some are really good and it’s an awesome feeling to know that we can all laugh at ourselves and meet some who do along the way. I’ve always the urge to write to vent, but I try to keep in mind the kids might one day read these posts. Haha.

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