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Stepping into the Big 4 (Part III) with IDS (ft. IDS)

May 31, 2021

So I entered the Big 4.

Did things immediately go downhill as people have warned me?

I do feel my metabolism slowing down a fair bit since last year and my observations are that if I lack sleep (which I really do), it really shows from my dark undereye circles and if I am not treating my body right with exercise and a balanced diet, my pores do break out in some gunk for a few days.

And for some reason, the peels on my lips are back with a vengeance even though I moisturise copiously. Ugh, no thanks to the mask-wearing.

IDS reckons it may be time to get laser treatment started. If you remember, a while ago I was recommended a Pep.Blue Deep Treatment which helped my face glow for a couple of weeks and showed very satisfactory results for a non-invasive treatment.

Visiting IDS Flagship at International Building and consulting for my skin condition

During my consultation, IDS noticed my skin drying out a lot more than when she last saw me and decided to order the BroadBand Light™️ (BBL) treatment to target the hydration issue and the pigmentation and dark spots near the undereye area. I was informed that there may be obvious dark patches and scabbing for a few days post-treatment before I can see brighter and firmer skin, to which I was completely OK with.

I was more concerned about the pain level — after all, I had to apply numbing cream and wait out its effect for about an hour — but I was relieved to hear that the BBL treatment works like a very advanced form of IPL and would not go beyond that for the discomfort level.

So after the numbing cream was applied and waited out, IDS handled the treatment swiftly and efficiently – a special cooling gel was applied to my face prior to the BBL shots and I later learned that the BBL system features a chilled sapphire that is applied to the skin before light energy is discharged. It’s an added safety feature to prevent burns to the skin and decreases the discomfort of the procedure.


A chilled sapphire is applied to my face before the BBL
My lip area — which is super sensitive — gets some TLC from the BBL

There was targeted emphasis on the skin tags surrounding my undereye and the pigmentation all around my upper face, plus a few more shots to treat the chapping on my lip area to increase the hydration, with almost no pain experienced at all. In no time, I was out and on my way home.

The tightening is immediate, and although I experienced some redness, it quickly disappeared after an hour.

About 5 days later, with very minimal makeup (just S3 and a bit of blush) and no lip balm at all, I could head out with the pigmentation and skin tags largely gone and a more hydrated face.

Very happy with my #IDSJourney thus far, and really loving the treatments and products recommended to accompany me in navigating the forties.

Disclosure: Results from treatments differ and all opinions here are my own.

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Stepping into the Big 4 (Part II) with IDS (ft. IDS Aesthetics)

March 30, 2021

To me, turning 40 is a big deal.

Everyone tells me it’s downhill from here. Your weight goes up, your skin sags, and your metabolism will be non-existent. Cellulite will pile and your fine lines will increase. So until I come to 50, which is a bigger deal, I’ll do everything and anything to de-auntify myself.

I recently tried Pep.Blue Deep Treatment at IDS Aesthetics because I really need to see my face lift and my collagen stimulated. A while back I thoroughly enjoyed (and still am enjoying!) trying the IDS Skincare range recommended to me by Dr Michelle Wong from IDS and I couldn’t be happier to be back at her clinic again to let her know that the RC and IM really worked for my dry, constantly-masked skin and to hear her recommendation for a facial treatment I should try

Here I am, back at Dr Michelle Wong’s office at Innovative Dermatological Solutions (IDS) telling her that I need help with some fine lines below my eyes.

And so a Pep.Blue Deep Treatment was what Dr Michelle recommended – and in a jiffy I was shown to a calm, quiet and nice-smelling treatment room to await my therapist.

Getting ready for deep cleansing and treatment

Her nimble hands gave me a good deep cleanse before she applied IDS’ proprietary Pep.Blu Serum and then starting me on a micro-current-like deep massage of the serum in my face, which I later learned is called ‘Non Invasive DEEP Electropration Technology’.

What it really means is that there’s intense prickling for a while, somewhat like a lot of needles just vibrating through to your skin, delivering the serum deep into where they should go.

Unlike traditional permeation machines, this one from IDS creates channel openings in the skin to allow permeation of solution to be absorbed.

For sure, it’s not the typical relax-and-close your-eyes kind of facial but hey, the results made me want to bear with the microcurrents running from that machine:

What a difference half a treatment makes: my right is more lifted and looking less dull than the left side!

After the electropration, I did have a close-your-eyes-and-sleep kind of facial when the Pep.Blue mask was applied under LED light. Caught 40 winks, which was not too bad. I thought the light would affect me but no, I was totally relaxed.

Time to get some rest after the electropration!

I would definitely recommend this treatment if you have dull skin, need a lift for sagging areas and desperately want some help with fine lines. I walked out feeling fresh and ready to conquer the world – till my next treatment, at least!

No makeup, all lifted, and feeling fresh

Loving my #IDSjourney so far and always feeling #IDServe it with their pampering.

Disclosure: All opinions here are my own, including all the apprehension about turning 40. Your experiences may be different but if they are similar, IDS is a great place to turn to!

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Stepping into the Big 4 with IDS (ft. IDS Skincare)

February 16, 2021

2021 is the year I’ll have to click a different range of age category, and I’ll be writing the number ‘4’ for the first digit of my age.

While it’s quite evident that my metabolism is slowing down a fair bit, makeup and concealer are still helping me hide a couple of things. Skin tags. Fine lines. Eye bags. Flaking lips. In addition to all these, ever since the mandatory face-mask wearing started, I also started developing red patches around the area below my nose.

Just last Christmas alone, I received many skincare and wellness gifts well-meaning friends thought I ought to have: lip balm (I received MANY kinds), eye cream, hair tonic, eye masks and moisturisers. I think everyone was seeing these two things on my face: red and dry, and clearly wishing for my sake that I should do something about it.

Thankful for friends who care, for sure. But I was even more thankful to be invited by Innovative Dermatological Solutions (IDS) to embark on a skincare journey with them. I’ve read a little of this homegrown brand while flipping magazine pages, and I’ve always been curious on what they really offer.

And so I paid a visit to the IDS flagship at International Building earlier this year to acquaint myself with their offerings and services, and to see Dr Michelle Wong from IDS Clinic for my skin issues.

The IDS Flagship is located at International Building.

Dr Michelle was empathetic in listening to my skin woes and without hesitation, ordered a range of skincare products for me to try – all to address the issues of enlarged pores on my T-zone, my fine lines around my eyes, my eye bags and eye rings, and the flaking around my lips.

At the doctor’s office, ranting non-stop

What happened subsequently was a rattling of a whole bunch of letters of the alphabet and numbers — T2, C2, IM, RC, etc… which was a little baffling at first but I soon realised IDS adopted a really simple way to name their products by using the first letters of the product and a number code for each skin type – oily, normal, dry. How easy to understand!

The IDS skincare range – PLENTY of options, all developed locally and extensively tested.
A rundown on what I got for my skin to be used in this order: C2 (Cleanser for normal to sensitive skin) > T2 (Toner for normal to sensitive skin) > PF (Pore Formula) > C+ (Vitamin C serum for the eye bags and dark rings) > RC (Rejuvenating Complex for the fine lines) > IM (Intensive Moisturiser for the flaky skin) > S3 (Tinted Sunscreen with SPF 50 PA+++)

It’s been close to two months now, at this point of writing, of using C2, T2, PF, C+, RC, IM and S3 in my daily skincare ritual and I’m really happy to report that I am blown away by the efficacy of this Made in Singapore line. The dry skin around my lips and the peeling lips have completely disappeared within a week of using RC and IM religiously twice a day, and I see visibly shrunk pores and fewer fine lines. The dark eye rings are still a battle (pretty much also genetic as I have always believed), but other than that, I have very moisture-ful, supple skin from the beginning to the end of the day and needing very little makeup and concealer after using the prescribed range from IDS every day.

In fact, I hang on to this for dear life now before I head out and rarely use any other kinds of makeup:

A special mention of this tinted sunscreen: I have been searching for something light, non-sticky, tinted, water resistant and chemical free. Bought a couple of them from my last Japan trip but found them on the cloying side.
This S3 just MELTS into the skin. AMAZING.

And this is the before and after of how my skin is looking – with zero filters used.

On the right is the patchy, red, flaky dry skin I started having since face-mask wearing, and on the left, is after a day’s work which is not super oily and with zero flaking after using my prescribed IDS skincare range.

Can’t be happier with this result and loving the local brand that is IDS. And more stoked that this is only the beginning of my IDS journey!

Disclosure: All opinions here are my own. I only do honest reviews – including reviewing how much HELP I need for my own skin.

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Hindsight is 20/20

June 25, 2020

To my 2016 self (also the time I stopped updating much on this blog and decided not to public with my parenting journey with each child):

It was tough taking the path of entrepreneurship. It was an ultimate test of grit and resilience. But the fruit of your labour would be sweet. You would have learned, relearned and unlearned so much in those years put together; you would have become that role model your children would be proud of; you would have inspired and created change and impacted lives in your own little ways you could never have imagined. It was a mad BUT fun ride.

The kids WILL grow up. You really need not sweat the small stuff. You will look back and miss them so small and so adorbs, tremendously.

In the year 2020, they will be 11, 10 and 8. Your tweens will start growing a teenage brain (Daniel Siegel’s book, Brainstorm, will be your go-to guide) and you will need to very patient with Ben. Get ready for Becky. And breathe a lot when it’s Nat’s turn.

The kids will hate being on social media and you taking photos. This blog will need to be about yourself more than about them. Start a diary or journal if you need a space to write about your thoughts and reflections.

Year 2020 will also be where mask-wearing will be the default fashion.

Hindsight will break your heart, but it also will give you motivation to be a better person. Things will get better because God, in 2020, is STILL GOOD.

(Self) Examination Ben Kao Family life as we know it Getting all sentimental now Nat Kao

Being mama to my fabulous Feb boys

March 8, 2019

I always find it hard this time of the year not to go all crumbly and soft and shed tears of nostalgia and reminisce.

My boys are Feb boys and this time of the year each one of the boys adds one more candle to the cake and I’m always an emotional wreck.

I have penned many such entries every February as a mother because there’s just too much emotional flooding not to write and get it out.

Nat turned SEVEN on 20th and Ben turned TEN on 26th. I cannot believe that it is double digits now for my firstborn. Has it really been a decade already since I’ve mothered this child?

Both the boys are sassy and smart (and sometimes smart-mouthed) and they are growing up so fine, I find it hard to believe so many years have gone by. Nat is learning to navigate the forays of formal schooling, making new friends and discovering his interests.

Along the way we’ve found out he’s got a nasty temper when pushed and can really immerse in name-calling so much so you don’t want to piss him off and rub him the wrong way. He gets especially annoyed when his clean and neat and organised private spaces have been compromised by his siblings, or if I gave instructions to make everyone pack that included him because that to him is grossly unfair – he is the most organised child of the lot, so he thinks!

We’ve grown to learn that this boy does have fangs. Hurhurhur.

The other one, my beloved firstborn, is 10 this year and I would never have imagined him being almost as tall as me now and weighing so much that I can’t, for all the strength in me, lift him even a quarter inch off the floor. I know someday he will stand taller than me, which I need to prepare myself mentally for. This boy frustrates me to no end with his quirks (think farts and burps and the ‘floss’) but at the same time lets me in to his world with all that’s trending including fortnite dances, lame jokes, unfiltered language and everything he loves as a boy. I am just afraid I will not have him as a boy very soon and the thought of seeing him as a croaking, pimply teen is making me cry a little every morning when fb invites me to revisit my memories. I see all those cute little chubby Ben faces and I’m not joking, I really lay in bed to cry.


Boys, if you are reading this some day, know that mama has had a hard hard time adjusting to you guys growing up so fast and maybe that’s why sometimes she’s a little lunatic and emo on days you just don’t get her.

Those times you got frustrated not knowing why your mama was like that? Yea. Cos she also has got bad, bad separation anxiety she basically couldn’t function.

She too, has to grow, little by little, to accept that you boys will someday grow up to be fine young men and that she no longer can hold you both like the babies she used to squish.

 

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2019

January 7, 2019

I started this blog back in 2012 when I was done with having three kids back to back as a means of finding a solace because motherhood was insanity then, and I needed an outlet to purge all the madness from my system.

I also started the blog as a gift to my children, hoping that some day they will be able to read what life was like raising them. And that I loved them through the rainbow days, and thunderstorm days.

This is the year 2019 and the years are indeed short. Ben is 10 this year. Becks, 9, and Nat 7.

I have officially transitioned from mothering preschoolers to primary schoolers this year, with the last child entering Primary 1.

And increasingly, it is becoming difficult to blog and chronicle my sentiments, reflections and musings raising them. They have become aware of the concept of self, and this concept of self is growing. As they are more keenly aware of who they are in their cultural, school, family and social contexts, they are also not so pleased for too much information to be shared.

Now they would ask me: Are you posting this on Instagram? Will this be on your blog?

Hurhurhur.

So, I’m at this inflexion point right now where I have SO MUCH to write about them but so little permission to, that I would have to increase my capacity to remember all our memories together.

In 2019, Motherkao blog would now be more about ME than them, and perhaps what’s it like living life at the brink of my 30s turning 40.

To possibilities, potential, and beyond. Happy 2019!

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Self care is best care [ft. Eu Yan Sang health products]

December 3, 2018

*In collaboration with Eu Yan Sang*

As I get older, I find myself being very tardy in terms of taking care of my internal health. In my 20s, I would buy an array of vitamins and supplements, do research on all sorts of health products, go a little mad on essential oils and insist on drinking good filtered water.

Now in my 30s approaching 40, all these “best practices” have been thrown out of the window. Maybe I got busier. Maybe I feel it doesn’t really matter anymore. Heck, if I am thirsty, I am actually ok just drinking from the tap, hurhurhur.

Until I broke my foot recently and life forced me to slow down and think about my health in a whole new way.

My bone health was the first I was alarmed by. I probably lack calcium due to too much coffee, like 2-3 cups every day.

My internal well-being was the next I was a little worried about. I was getting lethargic easily even with intermittent fasting and yoga, and I clearly have a lot of toxins to purge. My internal organs, I believe, was also working extremely hard.

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Goodies galore for me and the kids; review for the kids’ supplements to be up soon 🙂

So when Eu Yan Sang sent me some health and personal care supplements, I was determined to get my self care in place while recovering from the fracture.

First up, a bottle of Eu Yan Sang’s Essence of Chicken (with Dang Gui and Pearl) every morning. 23.3mg of calcium in one serving, 25kcal of energy, 0 cholesterol and total fat, plus pearl powder and dang gui for “youthful appearance” (so says the box) and it’s one bottle of goodness daily which I need.

Eu Yan Sang Essence of Chicken with Dang Gui & Pearl – I love the neon pink that makes downing ji-jing cool!

Ask my coworkers: I down one a day or when my energy hit an all-time low

Taste is not that bad (honest!) and I am heartened to know that Eu Yan Sang’s chicken essence is extracted from fresh premium-graded chickens produced from Good Animal Husbandry Practice-certified and accredited farms in Malaysia. Plus, it’s 100% natural and contains no caramel colouring!

Next, I’ll down a bottle of Eu Yan Sang’s Bird Nest with Pearl Powder and Collagen after a weekly facial mask unwind session – a luxury for a time-pressed mom like me – usually on a Thursday or Sunday evening. The last time I went for a two-hour facial was in May and I am finding it hard to squeeze in time for this. So a home facial and a bottle of Bird’s Nest will do for now. Bird’s Nest expensive lah, hurhurhur, once a week is good enough.

This has become my weekly routine now.

The third that’s incorporated now in my self-care routine includes swallowing 2 kinds of capsules that taste pretty funky but I am doing it nonetheless without complaints. For a long while now, my mother has been nagging about taking cordyceps in place of caffeine to boost my energy and taking Bak Foong pills once a month.

Cordyceps in capsule form is not a big problem. It’s pretty easily done. I do that at least twice a week, following the instructions at the back of the supplement bottle.

Did you know you can also add the capsules to your soup? How is that for convenience?

Now, Bak Foong pills are the most challenging. They are so tiny and plentiful and they don’t exactly taste fantastic. BUT I will go as far to say, I am reaping the benefits of it gradually with a bottle a month.

Eu Yan Sang Gold Label Bak Foong Pills

What benefits? <Warning: the next paragraph contains details of the gross kind>

My heavy flow is regulated now (it’s not ridiculously heavy on the second day), there’s lesser clotting and my cramping has reduced, which is really great. On a scale of ten, where I used to be at 10, it’s now 7-8 and much more bearable.

True story.

Mama is always right, I guess. She’s told me about Bak Foong since my teenage years and I only believe her NOW.

Each bottle contains thousands of little bead-like pills that take some time to ingest and I usually take the course of half a day to finish the whole bottle, with some tea or water!

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I am hoping I am on the right track to taking care of myself now. Those initial days of me being in a cast made me realise that burdening the family is not cool at all, and my kids need me. Glad that TCM is so easily accessible and non-invasive, and all I need to do is to ingest and reap the benefits for my internal health. En-route to better self-care and recovery for the broken foot!

Disclosure: This is the first out of two posts in collaboration with Eu Yan Sang, my go-to brand for my TCM needs. All opinions here are my own. 

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OMG when was the last time

April 15, 2018

It’s been a while.

I loved this quote about writer’s block I saw recently.

I couldn’t write because I was busy with all forms and fashions of being, living, working and mothering that writing became the really last thing on my mind. I needed to find reprieve, of course – when the going got tough – but where once upon a time I sought solace in writing, today I found it through yoga, hanging out with girlfriends, going on date nights or simply taking walks alone and praying.

Ah, the different seasons of life.

Motherhood has transformed beyond what words can describe and being a mother feels different now compared to when I first started this blog in 2012.

But I’ve always maintained that this piece of existence in cyberspace is my present to my three children. Because some day they will read my thoughts, my reflections and my journey.

Someday I want them to know Mama loved them enough to journal and write about life with them and what it was like being their Mama.

So this space will always be about that. What it was like to be Me and what it was like for Me to be their mother.

I’m back and I will, as best as I can, update this space as often as possible.

I will and should write, if I can. Whenever I can. Thank you, Sir Hemingway, for the reminder.

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This year, I will… support local, go sustainable and back social

January 4, 2018

Today I opened my eyes and the year is now 20-18. Amazing how time flies, and how quickly we lived through yet another 365 days.

As reflections are made of the outgoing year and resolutions for the incoming, most of us want to start the year right. I do a few things as a way of envisioning and setting the tone for how I want to live the next 365 days.

This year I want a lifestyle change with what I spend my money on and how I spend my money. This year, I want to shop with a conscience.

And it’s gotta be these three things for the consciousness in shopping: local, sustainable and social.

Increasingly, I am in the position of meeting and working with local businesses, social enterprises and people with businesses that promote sustainable living. So many of these people I’ve met in the course of entrepreneurship have inspired me to go slow, find out who makes my stuff, and where my money goes when I spend it, and for a while in 2017, I started looking out for local, social and sustainable businesses to support whenever I needed something new be it a a new bag, a new pair of shoes, or new clothes.

I want to continue doing that this year.

Last year, I had the privilege of being a part of a panel organised by DBS where I met a whole lot of social enterprises, all ready to take their businesses to the next level. What I realised then was that even though there were so many, and I mean MANY, social businesses out there that’s innovated something new, offering something different and even serving a very worthy cause fulfilling a real need out there, these businesses were not out there. Many people still don’t know who they are, and what they do.

A while ago, last year, sharing with social enterprises how to engage their consumers in the digital world with fellow panelists, Cheryl from Rock the Naked Truth and Beatrice from Klarra. I put on many hats that day – as a business owner of Trehaus and as mom blogger and target audience for many products ranging from kids and education to lifestyle and travel.

For social entrepreneurship, the ones who do have the visibility and also gotten the word out are really the ones who’s tapped on social media well, I must say. Many of them engage KOLs and audience-specific influencers, and then go on to fill their socials with beautiful visuals, captivating videos and purposeful content. They know their target audience well and understand how to position their cause to their advantage.

And most of all, they are authentic and believe wholly in what they do. I love that for all these businesses that are local, social and ethical, they are also truly passionate about their causes.

Here are some local, social and sustainable businesses which I love:

  1. Matter, a local brand I have grown to love for its cause and its championing of slow fashion in its own steady, quiet way.
  2. Coopita, a social enterprise and e-shop that preserves craftsmanship and showcases artisans from around the region. I recently bought a new tote bag weaved entirely out of upcycled plastic as part of the Coopita PLASTIC SWAP movement, and am loving the bag totally.
  3. The Missing Piece, where every piece is elegantly handmade and nothing is mass produced by a local mom of three.
  4. Twin Within, based locally but supporting single mothers through a peace organisation in the Philippines.
  5. Another Sole – love their shoes and the #buyonefeedone cause where part proceeds feed the hungry

There are so many other brands to love and support, and you can check them out here, and here. Hopefully, more of the social enterprises that participated in the panel discussion I participated can harness the powers of social media and get their stuff out there as more awareness is generated about the social cause.

In really comfortable #matterpants and my favourite plastic bag – this hugea** tote I am carrying is made of upcycled plastic and handwoven by artisans from Aarohana EcoSocial Developments who was recently represented by Coopita, one of my fave social enterprises in Singapore

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This year, I will go slow, find out who makes my stuff, and continue to champion conscious and ethical living.

Share with me your favourite local and ethical brands, or social enterprises that you love!

Putting my best feet forward! With Another Sole 🙂

Disclosure: I was invited to share my thoughts about social enterpreneurship and social enterprises I love by DBS. All opinions here are my own.

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Hustling with heart and purpose

November 11, 2017

It’s been THREE months since my last blog entry.

I’ve been doing nothing but hustle, hustle, hustle.

Hustling to get things done, make things work, solve problems, manage crises.

Hustling is a huge part of my entrepreneur life; hustling gets the going going – look at marcom plans! do team reviews! take people out for one-on-ones! meet stakeholders! have conversations! engage the customers! solve the gaps in ___ (whatever that needs to go in the blanks)!

Hustling is the much needed momentum for mom life. Most of us know the drills: Thursday is tingxie for Child 2 and it’s Wednesday for Child 1, reading practice needs to be done before Monday for Child 3, spelling is on Tuesday for Child 2 and Wednesday for Child 1 (wait a minute – is it Monday?), Chinese tuition for all 3 children are on Tuesdays, end of year assessment happens in Term 4 Week 5 for Child 1 for Math and English and Term 4 Week 6 for Chinese but it’s also broken down into multiple occasions for assessment over Weeks 7 and 8 and …

blahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblah … …

And beyond the school stuff are the mom-i-need-an-erasable-pen-from-Popular + mom-my-school-shoes-can’t-fit-anymore + mom-there’s-a-play-date-i’m-invited-to + mom-i-need-to-get-my-bff-a-birthday-gift-it’s-his-birthday-tomorrow + mom-it-looks-like-i-have-cavities-see-how-many-stains-my-front-teeth-have + mom-I-lost-the-school-library-books-I-borrowed + mom-when-are-we-going-to-the-zoo-i-need-to-draw-a-picture-of-the-racoon-dog + mom-what-time-will-you-be-home-i-need-you-to-do-page-3-worksheet-with-me + the gazillion “mom-I…” requests.

Is it hard to have babies this big? Yes, it is. Small babies just exhaust you physically. Big babies – they drain the helluva you mentally.

For many years now, I have never stopped wondering why I would take the path of madness. When I stayed home with three kids aged 3, 2 and 1, I thought I was mad. When I started my first business while staying home with them, I thought I was mad. When I plunged even deeper into the depths of being a startup founder and entrepreneur, I thought this was it – I really must be mad. And amidst all these madness, life actually got madder with schedules and crises and offers and invitations which I say yes to.

I recently said yes to going back to my corest of competencies. I am even madder now: to be prepping lessons, designing curriculum and standing in classrooms again, amidst the beautiful chaos already present in my life.

Because I actually still want to make magic happen every day, as a mother, as an entrepreneur, as an educator.

It’s a mad world I live in but I am loving every minute of this madness. Because if I hustle with heart and purpose, I know it’ll take me somewhere.

Moms are the most amazing creatures when we hustle. We become super, and I am not at all embarrassed to declare that.